I need to adapt to school. An autistic child and the school.

Today, while I was waiting for Alice behind the fence near the school, about 20 minutes after the start of the third lesson, I heard her crying. My first impulse was to rush to the gate and see what had happened. I jumped out of the car and stopped. I stand and listen. I hear the teacher saying something to her, calling her. I stand further, listen, like, it became quiet. I was relieved. Five minutes later, our class teacher calls, says, take your daughter, and I will have a serious conversation with you. Remember the moment in the Seventeen moments of spring: “And you, Stirlitz, I will ask you to stay”? And heart in heels. So do I. I wander to the gate, and it feels like I was called to the Board, but I didn’t do my homework. Most of all, I am afraid that one day I will be told that your daughter is unschooled or interferes with other children’s learning and we will be asked to switch to individual training.

I really want her to adapt successfully at school, to make friends, to enjoy learning and to have success. I understand that it takes time to adapt, and I’m willing to give it time myself, but I’m very worried that the teachers will get tired or decide that it’s useless and give it up. Fortunately, for now, these thoughts are just my fears. The class teacher just asked her to help her with Alice and spend more time at home developing fine motor skills. I’ve already screwed myself up. In General, I do not get tired of being happy about what wonderful people we meet on the way. I have never been asked to give up a child or take her to a special institution, although I have heard a lot of such stories. Most of all, of course, we are lucky with specialists (speech therapists, speech pathologists, psychologists, educators, etc.), and now we are also lucky with teachers.

Tomorrow they promised to arrange a meeting with a psychologist, Alice will have additional lessons after school. In General, there is a wonderful approach to children, they are not trying to drive anything into a certain framework. Individual approach to each child. If something doesn’t work out, then you should try another way. Parents are also attracted, because only in tandem can you often succeed.

Only this is all written so well and correctly, and in real life every morning I worry about how she will go to school, how she will behave in class, how many of them she will sit out, what she will do, how she will communicate with the children. By the way, about the guys. Alice’s children in class are wonderful. Three first-graders, including Alice and three second-graders, all under the guidance of a single class teacher. Five boys and one girl. The guys are all kind and active. Of course, each with its own characteristics, but we have such a school, there are no others here.

Probably, the adaptation process is required not only for Alice, but also for me. It is necessary to rebuild from the kindergarten life, where everything is already established and brings one continuous pleasure to school life, where everything is new and unknown. We’ll slowly build in and get used to it, we can’t retreat!